Hello. My daughter is 8 years old. She is sociable, clever, very kind. But I see that children do not really want to be friends with her, although they greet her, ask how things are, but that's friendship, there is no desire to play with her. They can call a fool or say "get out." She is very complexed and in order to somehow make her feel like a good girl and worthy, she sent her to dance and to a music school, but alas, this does not help, she mostly sits alone or walks along the wall. There were cases when the daughter discharged the phone and she asked the girls to call me, so I took her if the lessons ended much earlier than usual, because we live far from school, no one gave her, even though she always shares everything with everyone (sometimes even the last) , I come, and she cries and tells about it. The teacher says that she does not respond to the lessons, tries to sit through the lesson unnoticed. Often on control deuces or triples. And at home she solves problems herself and everything is correct. It really hurts for her. But I do not know how to help her.
Dear Mom, I'll start with you. Why didn't you enter your name? Afraid to be noticed? But no one in life will understand who writes on this site.I would like to know how many friends and girlfriends you have, and what is your relationship with them? Whether the daughter inherited the sacrificial pattern of behavior from you. By sacrifice, I mean the desire to always be good for others. This is a very dangerous desire. Sometimes it leads to the fact that a person like a faithful dog is ready to wear slippers to someone. I think you're an adult and will figure it out. As for your baby. My daughter, who called herself meekly, and really was one, had tears in elementary school too. Once I defended her, coming to school without her. Eva was in the first grade then, and the girls from the fourth were offended. I approached them and quietly said: “Once again you will approach my daughter, I will tear off your head and parents will not send it back to you”. A day later, my daughter came out of school, smiling, and said: "Mom, it's so strange, now when I go to the toilet, everyone runs out of there." But then my grandmother and I took the child psychologist, who worked on all these things with Eve. Today I have a person in the 10th grade, self-sufficient just so much that she does not care at all who is friends with her and who is not. She has two friends with whom she is comfortable.The only thing we can’t teach Eva, unlike your daughter, is sharing. With sweets and other things, she won’t get snow from her in winter. On this occasion, we are also doing a great job. But the psychologist helped us a lot. It is necessary to develop a child self-sufficient, and this is your main task now. Dancing by dancing, but kunfu or karate classes, most likely, your daughter wouldn't be hurt either. Try moving in that direction. This has not spoiled any female life. And next time, be sure to subscribe.
Perhaps she does not tell you everything, for no reason this can not be. Maybe nayabidnichala teachers, and that's got the attitude like that. Talk to the teachers.
I talked to the teacher. The teacher says that she does not conflict with anyone, but there is no special friendship, she doesn’t scandalize, she never complains to the teacher. I have an open relationship with my daughter. She tells everything, even if it does not concern her (for example, he then beat or pushed or called. Says "Mom, it’s not good to do either, right?)
Do not worry, your daughter is just different from others, and therefore stands out from the rest.Ask your daughter if she wants to be friends with someone herself or if she is satisfied with such an isolated position. Is she sociable? Not closed? She can answer all the causal questions, and then we can judge how to help her.
In a sense different from other children?
She wants to be friends, but nobody wants her. We had such a situation, she herself was ready to cry, it was so painful to look at Ksyusha. She had a birthday, she invited classmates in advance, they all said they would come. We prepared well with her, my daughter helped me. The day before the birthday, we phoned all those invited to clarify about the holiday, answered that they would come. Nobody came on his birthday and the phones were turned off not only by the children, but also by their parents. Would see my daughter at that time on her own birthday. Now she again wants to invite children, but only others. I do not know what to say to her
She had a girl with whom she spoke. but recently I caught this girl because she shows my daughter pictures on the Internet that are not recommended for children to watch. I told my daughter that such a girlfriend, who at 9 was interested in this, did not need her.I do not know if I did the wrong thing, but I found it necessary. now Ksenia is alone at home, I take her to the playground where there are children, but every day I can’t do this because I have one more year old child, a house and a garden. plus state exams began. She compensates for the lack of friends sitting at the computer. I do not like this. I want as soon as I rent the gos to take her out of the house more often.
She had a girl with whom she spoke. but recently I caught this girl because she shows my daughter pictures on the Internet that are not recommended for children to watch. I told my daughter that such a girlfriend, who at 9 was interested in this, did not need her. I do not know if I did the wrong thing, but I found it necessary. now Ksenia is alone at home, I take her to the playground where there are children, but every day I can’t do this because I have one more year old child, a house and a garden. plus state exams began. She compensates for the lack of friends sitting at the computer. I do not like this. I want as soon as I rent the gos to take her out of the house more often.
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Maybe it is worth to show the daughter to the psychologist? What is your family situation? Maybe her behavior is due to some kind of problems at home?
At home we have a normal situation, the only thing we sometimes swear is with our husband, but everyone has it
Maybe it's worth changing school? To the house closer. And you will worry less. Perhaps in the new team it will be easier.
Thank you very much for the advice, but we have only one school nearby. Unfortunately there are no other schools.
I see no reason to change the school, to run every time it does not work, but the girl needs to learn communication and networking. Soon the new year, a time when all children have a good mood, you can catch the moment and do something pleasant for them. Let her daughter bring toys to school and offer to play with the children. Here is the designer LEGO 21108 Ghostbustersfix-brick.ru/goods/21108, no one can resist such) Joint games helped to improve relations)
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